Friday, July 19, 2013
By Debbie A. Duran
Cultivate and foster positive relationships in your work environment. Do not respond to everything that displeases you, learn when to hold em and when to fold em.
Do not immediately respond to emails that really upsets you. Wait for a day, and when you do, asks someone (preferably outside the company) to read the contents and evaluate the tone of your response.
Trust no-one, keep your personal affairs to yourself, most people are not your friends in the work environment (This is most common downfall of employees). Consistently sharing your personal information with a supervisor as well, can have a negative psychological effect. For example, if you call out of work, all the things you told the supervisor, will possibly begin to play back in their heads.
If you are planning to sue your workplace (for whatever reason your heart desires), tell NO-ONE in the work place. If you tell someone and change your mind, that stigma will forever stay with you and your supervisor will never like you.
Keep your business (especially the ones that can damage you) to yourself.
Whatever you tell someone at work, should be something you don’t mind everyone knowing about. Don’t get mad if your business gets told, because frankly, if you can’t keep your own secret, why should anyone else keep it for you?
Always remember who is in charge and respect who is in charge, even if you do not like them.
Do not go to work with the expectation that everyone should like you, some will, some won’t; the focus should be that the majority respects you. If no one respects you, then you really need to start evaluating yourself. Popularity doesn’t help you to keep your job; it is hard work and respect that out weighs popularity
If a supervisor is nice to you, do not perceive it as weakness, nor should take the kindness for weakness. Remember your supervisor also has a supervisor
Work on complimenting your supervisor at times, play into their egos, some call it ass kissing or brown nosing; I call it laying a foundation for building the skyscraper. So while you are busy building your skyscraper let the by-standers snicker, laugh and criticize you. Later in the years, they will be outside the office of your skyscraper, asking you for a job or a favor.
Your supervisor may not like you, but you should work on the respect they have for you.
If you are supervisor, do not engage in gossip as this ruins your credibility and lowers employees’ respect of you. Employees still like to feel a sense of trust whenever they speak to a supervisor. Therefore, if an employee tells you they are taking off work to for cancer treatment...etc...They should not be greeted by fellow coworkers saying" Are you ok"? This is not what a supervisor should be doing.
Do not get tunnel vision in your career and only live for the moment, always think about the future, look at the big picture. All the people you will encounter as you changes jobs, are all stepping stones you will need to get you to the top.
Even if you and your supervisor are not the best of friends, they should be willing to write you a reference. Ask them to their faces, if they would be willing to give you a reference, and if possible, could they put it in writing. This way, you will get them to put their feelings on paper, so if a job then calls them and they say negative about you, then they would be contradicting what they have already put on paper
If you have had at least 3 jobs and you can’t get at least one good reference, it is time to do some soul searching and self evaluation.
In order to grow in your career, you have to learned the rules of engagement and how to function in workplace jungle
If you have been trying to leave your job for a while or trying to get promoted and nothing has happened, you really need to take a look in the mirror and then contact GTJ Consulting. www.gtjconsulting.us
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Posted by Debbie A. Duran at 10:37 AM